Baby #3: 33 weeks

5.20.14: Thirty-three weeks with baby number three. My golden week, when my belly matches my age!
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I like stripes and pinks/purples.
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The Good: Baby is fattening up at 4-5 pounds and almost 17 inches long and is almost ready to be on the outside world. So fascinating to me to read those updates online and think of a real, live baby boy in there, growing and kicking and hiccuping away. And oh, he is still kicking like he wants to go down in history for bursting through my belly button. I even woke up one time last week in the middle of the night, specifically because he was kicking my bladder with authority. Ouch, buddy! My OB said he is head down which makes me so happy. I have no idea why I can feel him all over the place, but it's probably because he is a maniac and will be a total wild man on the outside, too. Pointy little body parts make me want to rub my belly at all times just to visualize if it's a tiny heel, an elbow, or a knee that is jabbing me in various organs.

I think my belly is reaching torpedo status at this point.
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I'm seriously in denial that we are so close to meeting our son. I cannot freaking wait. Literally might burst from excitement at this point and feel very little nerves/anxiety about labor and delivery just yet. I'm sure that will change but for now, reading back over Cecelia's birth story made me want to cry because we get to do *that* again!! And soon.

Pretty good for energy levels this week, but I did require a lot of sleep over the weekend. Like, sleeping until 8 am, then napping, and then going to bed before 10pm---all of which are pretty rare around here, but I couldn't hang. I'm trying to find that balance of doing enough activities to feel accomplished and productive but not to much that I regret it later. Always a work in progress.

This whole week flew by and I don't even know what to say was the best moment of the week. Just the weekend in general? Warm, sunny weather, eating pizza on picnic benches with a bunch of friends, a BBQ on Sunday night...it was all amazing. And these next few weeks are going to be even better! We have our Minnesota visitors (Erin!) coming to see us this weekend, then it's our anniversary, then Mom and Memaw fly in, it's Cecelia's birthday and then her party. So much fun!! Time will surely fly.

The Bad: My stomach truly feels like it could explode from stretching, especially at the top. Lots of Braxton Hicks contractions this week that leave me feeling a little uneasy about my body 'getting ready' so soon. I have a hard time getting comfortable in the evening and my upper back hurts. I'm waddling a bit and peeing a ton. Really, really, really ready to be finished at work for awhile. Occasionally letting Jesus take the wheel for solo parenting my two hooligans because I just cannot deal with their shenanigans. If I hear one more 'CC poked me!' or 'True-yyyyyyyy, nooooooooo' I might lay down and take a nap, just to show 'em who's boss. I'm tired, dudes (although I just said my energy levels are pretty good, so I guess it depends on the minute). And yet, I still think for being 33 weeks I'm doing great---it could be so much worse!

The Mushy: I love being pregnant. I'm overwhelmed by emotions on the regular, but especially when I think about adding another person to our crazy crew. A PERSON, you guys. A squishy baby. One that has his own baby smells and little squeaks and cries and weird newborn movements. Gah, I can barely take it sometimes.

The Comparisons: With Truman at 33 weeks, I was still working full time in the super physically demanding/fast paced Acute Care setting (HOW?!?!) and was apparently feeling really good. This was the week before my blood pressure spiked, though, so I know my body was starting to feel it even back then. I was decorating Truman's nursery and we finished up our breastfeeding class. Ah, the good old days. Feeling reminiscent tonight just reading that post---life was so different and we were on the cusp of so much GOOD change!!

And oh, the belly is so different with each of my boys. I don't think this is cropped correctly to adequately show how small I was the first time around, but whatever. You get it.
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With Cecelia at 33 weeks, I was just starting to feel a little uncomfortable, with upper back pain, a tight stomach, and we had just moved into our house. I was deep into unpacking and painting and nesting and although we don't have to be *that* extreme about it this time around, I am finding a lot of satisfaction in organizing and cleaning. I finally mustered up the energy to polyurethane the crib and repaint the nursery windows to be all white instead of the maddening cream panes with white trim. Add those check marks to the 'buy diapers' bullet point on my To-Do list and I'm a happy mama who feels slightly more prepared for this baby. Nate thinks I'm nuts to buy a pack of diapers 'this soon' but truly, it makes me feel a lot more relaxed for some reason. Ahem, control freak.

This comparison shot confirms that my belly is quite a bit bigger this third time around compared to my last. Man, I love comparison pics.
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Ah, pregnancy. So wild. July 8 seems really freaking close and also far away. I know it's really dangerous to allow thoughts like this, but I really think I might go a little early with him. I KNOW, totally jinxing myself and everyone thinks they will go early with subsequent pregnancies. But I just feel so much insane movement, like he wants out, my belly hurts from stretching and I'm tired. As if that means anything...but still. Mark my words: I will be surprised if I make it to my due date. Stop snickering. I know ;)



Moms Make it Work: Jennie | A Young, Military, Stay-at-home Mom

Today we have Jennie posting for our Moms Make it Work series, a blog reader who reached out to me and asked to contribute to the series. Jennie is a young mom (22 is young in my book!!) and stays at home with her little boy, Troy. They are a military family as Jennie's husband, Ty, is gone for extended periods of time. I thought that *I* do a decent amount of solo parenting with Nate's longer hours lately, but I've been quickly humbled when considering the amount of time military wives spend without their parenting partners. You can find Jennie on Instagram @jennie_duplessis, and I hope you enjoy her post!

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Hi, I'm Jennie, a 22 year old stay at home mom to a two year old boy, Troy and a Marine wife to Ty. Originally from Louisiana, but a transplant to North Carolina and where ever else the Marine Corps takes us. I'd like to thank Julia for letting me contribute how I make it work.

-What is your background story? What was your career/schooling before you became a mom? And where are you now?

I don't have much schooling background, just high school. I met my husband in 2008 while we were both life guarding at a water park in Baton Rouge. We never really dated, but I think I always knew he was the one. He joined the Marine Corps in 2009, and we got married in 2010 a week before my high school graduation (my parents were thrilled. Ha). I was accepted into college, but when we decided to get married I decided not to go since I would eventually move from Louisiana to North Carolina. We got married in May and Ty left for his first deployment in July.

We had been trying to get pregnant before he left but it didn't happen, and looking back now I'm glad we didn't get pregnant right away. I was way too stressed out during his deployment as it was. He came back home in February of 2011, and I moved up to North Carolina we started trying for a baby again, and finally got pregnant in July. Then he got orders to deploy again and left that December. He wasn't able to be there for the birth of our son, but he did get to watch over Skype. He came home in July 2012 when Troy was 3 months old. Ty is currently in Okinawa-- he left in October 2013 and will be there until November 2014.


Our wedding 2010
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Troys birth 2012
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Homecoming 2012
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-What are the best parts of your situations? What are the challenges?
The best part of my situation is being with my son all the time, but that can also be a challenge since I'm usually parenting on my own. Another good part is that when Ty is gone for extended amounts of time we go home to visit family so everyone can see Troy. I'm an only child and the oldest grandchild so Troy is the only grandchild/great-grandchild. So when we go home it's really great for me because I get a lot of help with little man, but that has its challenges, too. Ty misses so much. This year will be our 4 year anniversary and we've only spent one together, one Christmas together, and he has missed both of Troy's birthdays.


Ty meeting Troy for the first time
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-Is this how you expected it to be pre-kids?
 I knew this was the life I was going to have when I married Ty, and I'm okay with that. I did expect him to be home a little more than he has, but he switched his MOS to another job that isn't a combat unit anymore so he might not deploy as often.


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-Is this your ideal situation? If not, what is?
This is no where near my perfect situation. If I had my way Ty would never deploy he wouldn't miss anything anymore. We would be pregnant with our second child, and it would be rainbows and daisies all the time ;). I know that is completely unreal and I'm ok with that. This is our life right now and probably the next 25 years. I love being a military family and wouldn't trade our lives for anything.

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-Tips on how you make your situation work for you:
LOTS of help from my family. I know my situation is way different than a lot of some readers lives so I'm not sure if I have much to give. I try not to go crazy too often. We have a lot of hot wheels that keep Troy occupied for a pretty long time, and he plays by himself amazingly. Right now my mom is my life saver when I get too overwhelmed with him.

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-How do you handle mommy guilt?
 I don't handle mommy guilt well at all. Since I'm by myself a lot with Troy I get frustrated often then I get mad at myself for snapping at him. I'm just a giant jar of emotions that I try to keep a lid on, but every now and then I have some wine and cry ;).

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-Advice for new moms struggling with returning to work outside of the home? Or struggling to decide if staying at home is the right choice?
 My advice would be to do whatever you're comfortable with. You don't need it worry about what other people think you should do. Hey if kids make you a little to crazy then don't be ashamed to go back to work if that's the break you need. If you have nerves of steel and want to be with your crazy awesome kids full time that's great too. It's what's going to work best for your family and for YOU.

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(Thanks, Jennie! Find the rest of the MMIW series here)

Things I've learned this week

-Super early bedtime for the kids = longer, better sleep for them, including sleeping nearly 13 hours in a row (!). Not always, but at least this one time it worked well, although I feared they would be awake for the day at 4 am ready to go. Nope! On Tuesday, Cecelia only took an hour long nap, which is a lot shorter than her usual 2-3 hour stretch. Truman didn't nap, as always, and by the evening both were whiny and exhausted and I was TOTALLY spent. And so? Bedtime began at 6pm and they were asleep at 6:30. And they didn't wake until 7 am. GLORIOUS for everyone. It hasn't happened since and definitely cannot happen every night, but when those evenings occur they are awesome. I mean, from 6:30-10pm we had peace and quiet and adult time...and lots of Dexter episodes. Yessssss. I love my kids so much but I love it the most when they sleep well.

I also love when they give me unprompted hugs, like this. Truly, I was just taking a picture of Cecelia and her long legs when Truman came over to hug me. Cecelia followed suit. And I frantically flipped the phone's camera around to capture this moment. My babies!
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-Carving out time at a coffee shop with my laptop for 1 hour alone = the perfect kind of 'me time' right now. The more I get into this parenting thing, the more I realize that I will burn out and bottle up resentment towards my kids if I don't regularly take time for myself. Who knew, right?

I need that time to recharge, to return emails, to focus on the blog a bit, and to feel energized and ready to tackle more hours at home/my real job. It used to be that going for a run would be my favorite stress reliever but now I enjoy coffee shop/computer time to reset my sanity levels. A nice walk outside is great, too, but there is just something about sitting in Starbucks with my computer and my coffee that feels luxurious.

The only way I'm making this work right now is because Nate will not teach any classes this summer, so he is back to working 'just' 40 hours per week. He will still have his late days on Mondays and Wednesdays, getting home at 7:30pm, but now instead of getting home around 5pm on Tues/Thurs it will be a GLORIOUS 12:30pm. Incredible, right? Fridays will continue to be a 6pm return time, so really Tuesdays and Thursdays are our cherished days as a family.

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I love spending time with the four of us but if I take just an hour out to be alone, now that Nate can watch the kids for me, I find that the rest of our time together is *that* much more appreciated. So I plan to keep my dates with myself from now until baby is born and am thankful for my parenting partner on this one.

-These first two bullet points make it seem like I don't love being around my kids and prefer them to be asleep or prefer to be at Starbucks alone. NOT TRUE. But I am realizing how important it is to balance my attention on them and also attention to myself/hobbies/husband/etc. I feel very strongly that this will only amplify when baby #3 arrives but I'm positive that the balance is going to be very skewed away from 'me time' for many, many months. Which is another reason to take advantage of it while I can, I suppose. Maybe I can 'bank' both sleep and me time to last me awhile? Ha.

-Cold and rainy days at home are such downer when it's SUPPOSED to be Spring and nearly summer. We are just totally over any and all indoor activities at this point in the year because (broken record alert) it's been a really long winter. On Thursday, the kids and I just didn't feel like going anywhere at all. Truman even turned down a Target trip! It barely hit 50 degrees that day and was just gross outside, so we came up with a fun way to stay warm inside: daytime baths! I let the kids take a looooong bath that morning, with colored water tablets, and every single bath toy we own. They seriously had a ball----they've always loved their dual baths, and I've been known to take many-a-bath pictures over the years. But that's alright. We just like baths here, I guess.

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-Antibiotics are awesome. Truman is back to his old self and we are one week out from the scare of last week. Thank you, God. Cecelia seems fair, although she does have a little cough. I'm watching her like a hawk but so far no fever, no hives, no signs of being sick.

-Hair cuts on little boys = aged 3 more years. SO stinking handsome. Love how shocked he looks here, not sure what I said to get this look from him.

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Sorry, Truman, but you are just so beautiful sometimes.
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Also, he really HAS grown a ton in the last year. Ignore the maddening typo in this picture. One year of growth. Woah.
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-Hair cuts and a brow wax on mom = luxurious, and much needed. I'm honest with myself and my hair dresser when I say I probably won't see her again until after baby. Mind blowing!! Growing out the top and sides a bit to make my cut more of a bob, so hopefully I won't want to yank out the nasty 'mullet' part on my neck when it gets too long again. ;) Still loving shorter hair for the ease of styling, so I'm not growing it out for REAL. I just needed a different shape and really like it again. Note the lack of a rat tail now.

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-Html code is still beyond me, but not impossible. I emailed Erin asking her if she had any idea how to update my Moms Make it Work page, because having one giant picture per post is not going to work moving forward. I have now returned over FORTY emails to readers who want in on this series, you guys! So freaking exciting. We are nailing the 'must find' groups of moms like bosses and I cannot wait to share these stories with you. I think I will have to post twice per week through the summer, since otherwise I'll have to schedule them out through the fall or beyond....not sure yet. What a great 'problem' to have!

ANYWAY, Erin helped me figure out a way to make each smaller icon click right to the post, and it looks fabulous. Check it out. I wanted a 'hover title' for each icon and figured out how to make that happen for a better description of each poster without 'labeling' too much. You can only see the roll over title on a real computer, not the mobile site, but I like that you can roll past each icon and search for other SAHM or WM or whatever you feel like reading at the moment. I guess the page is ready for 70+ posters total now. Eeeeek!

Screen shot of said changes if you really don't want to click to see;)

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-I am not 'big' compared to other 32 week bellies, but I am 'big' compared to my own previous 32 week bellies. Especially at the end of the day, the bump just feels so STRETCHED and tight. I snapped this picture on Thursday and compared it to my 38 week picture with Cecelia's pregnancy. Not too far off, right? I am not complaining because I freaking love being pregnant still, and feel really good. I just cannot get over the crazy changes pregnancy brings. It never gets old to marvel at the differences between pregnancies of my own, and although most people still say I'm 'so small' I know that FOR ME, I'm very very pregnant. Not sure how this belly is going to stretch even bigger for the next 8ish weeks. Cray Cray.

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-I just counted it up and have 7 more weeks of work remaining before maternity leave. OMGOMGOMGOMG. Yes.

-Nate got new surround sound speakers for the TV (such a guy thing, do not care at ALL but he is very adamant about this). When moving the old subwoofer to the basement we heard little rattling sounds inside. And? The kids were hiding the following:

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-Cecelia is being trained to be my own personal masseuse. Observe



-In summary: It's FRIDAY!!! I crave balance between 'me time' and 'every other responsibility time'. I like random bullet point posts. And we've had a great week so far, iPhone pictures above to prove this statement.
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